How do you measure success in the pursuit of 90-day commitments? Is it more important to follow through on what you set out to do—even if doesn’t feel right? Or allow yourself the flexibility to pivot to a goal that feels good? What can you learn from the habits that don’t stick?
Today on the podcast, we’re checking in to share the outcomes around our 90-day commitments. We discuss what we learned about the difference between writing for creativity versus output, explaining how our true intentions (to write without a deliverable in mind) revealed themselves through the process. We also explore the idea of chasing your core desired feelings and allowing goals to evolve to meet your needs.
We go on to describe how our 90-day commitments around daily meditation shifted, offering a more expansive view of what meditation looks like and inspiring us to live in consciousness. Listen in for insight on learning from what you choose NOT to do and learn why it’s more important to be flexible within the framework than to force yourself to pursue goals that aren’t working.
Themes explored in this week’s episode:
- What we learned about the difference between writing for creativity vs. output
- How our 90-day commitments around meditation evolved to look different from what we had expected
- Editing goals when they don’t deliver on your core desired feelings
- The value in being flexible and allowing what’s not working to reveal your true intention
- How Katie’s writing practice inspired the idea for a new book
- Tegan’s success in turning reading into a habit
- How our Facebook group fared in achieving their 90-day commitments + how setting expectations might have fostered more engagement
- Learning from what you choose NOT to do
- Honoring your commitments to yourself
Resources from this episode:
- Learn more about lemon ricotta pancakes in Katie’s book Hidden Brilliance
- Explore the idea of core desired feelings through the work of Danielle LaPorte
- Listen to our podcast episode on Modern Community with Lola Wright
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Quotes from the episode:
Tegan—
“My true intention in my heart was to be able to write freely, but I didn’t know that, and I wouldn’t have really realized that was the top priority if I hadn’t tried the 90-day experience.”
“Even if I feel like I fell short of my original intention, my true intention showed itself through the process.”
“That flexibility within the framework or the process is so important … [because] it really is about a core feeling that we’re chasing with some of these goals.”
“How different would it have felt for both of us to force something through the pipe just because we said that’s what we thought it was supposed to look like three months ago?”
“How many things do I follow that I feel are very meaningful, but I don’t contribute back—whether that’s online or something that’s going on in the world?”
“What have you learned from what you’ve chosen NOT to do?”
Katie—
“We can learn so much from what we choose as goals, what we don’t choose as goals, what we’re successful at when we choose the goals and which ones we’re not. Just not being successful at that was an AHA, a gift of information that now you can understand how you want to move forward.”
“I struggle with meditating. I do it. It just doesn’t always end up the way I hope that it does. It’s hard for me to stay committed to it because I don’t always feel the way that I want to feel.”
“I give myself a lot more latitude without any judgement, which is lovely. I love that I’ve learned how to do that.”
“We see this so many times with coaching clients. People come to us and they say, ‘This is my goal,’ but that’s not really the thing.”
“We learned that the goal was not to write, the goal was to write from the heart. We learned that the goal was not to meditate, but to live in consciousness. How cool is that?”
“How do I NOT cancel commitments to myself?”
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